Wednesday, May 17, 2017

Yes, I Love How I Look Too.

It's so funny, a friend of mine shared this article from Buzzfeed where a woman who agreed with a compliment she received on Tinder and how it pissed the guy off. Why is that? Is it because you encountered a woman who, for once loves who she is, what she is and how she looks? Is it because that a woman who is self-aware is now deemed cocky instead of confident? Either way, it's annoying.


You should think and believe that you look good. You should love your skin, hair, nails, clothes, body and whatever else you wear on that beautiful canvas that God created. Most importantly you shouldn't be apologetic for it. Look, it's simple, if a guy is threatened by your confidence and self love they will lash out at you and come back with a diss to cover up that compliment. It's mainly because that man is scared of a woman who is secure. Which ultimately means that he himself is insecure and wants a doe eyed chick who is in the same boat.

Personally like many of you I've been treated badly because of my confidence. Also because I'm not easily smitten by a comment. This one guy told me that he didn't know how to handle someone who already knew her worth. What? He went on to explain that a majority of girls, when you compliment them they give you a backstory. I laughed because I know plenty of women like that. He then mocked a conversation:

man: you look great
woman: really? man I felt like shit today or ugh thanks I don't think so or stop lying

man to me: you look great today!
me: thanks!

He said my short curt response mixed with happiness and self-awareness of my self-love was refreshing. We went on to have a great date and later down the road we fitted best as friends and nothing romantic. However from time to time, he does hint at wanting to give it another shot, but meh I'm not feeling it.  Now back to the compliments!

I want every woman to learn how to receive a compliment with confidence. It starts by loving yourself and complimenting yourself daily AND believing it! Tell yourself you're gorgeous in the morning, that you look good and that you love those battle scars that we as women gain over the years. You are beautiful, you are loved and you are an amazing goddess! If you need some help, my girl Ashley Graham has a message for you:
<3 Ebony

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