I have plenty of friends who I listen to when they need to vent, cry or just talk. One thing that's consistent from my friends is that they're apologizing for being happy. Whether it be because they found someone who aided in that happiness over an ex, or enjoying the current state of life when others aren't or simply because they are just happy!
I know we tend to feel guilty when our lives move forward and others around us might be stuck. I understand that awkwardness that comes when someone asks you "how are you?" or "what's new?" and you actually have good news; while in return their answers aren't the same. I know that it feels weird to express your happiness and have someone come in and be sad. That's okay, don't apologize for you being happy. You don't need to say sorry to your friend because you're in a better place and they don't like it. If they were a real friend despite what's going on in their life they will always be happy for you. (With that said don't be a prideful jerk about your happiness. You still need to remain humble and listen to your friend and hear their situation out)
Now when it comes to that ex of yours. You don't owe your ex an explanation. They don't need to know who you're with, why, when it happened etc because it's simply not their business. The day your business solely became yours is the day you two split. Don't allow them to make you feel bad because they might still have feelings for you. Don't allow them to make you feel bad because you're firm in the decision to go your separate ways. Don't let that happen because honey, misery loves company.
When I realized that one situation wasn't making me happy, I HAD to let that go. I can't allow myself to be miserable when God is trying to work wonders in my life. God told me what to do awhile ago and I ignored it, and I have to tell you I'm so glad I acknowledged him now. Letting that go, has opened so many doors for me to truly be happy. I don't feel guilty for letting that relationship go. I feel so good and relieved and revived! Now, do I know if what I might venture into with someone else will be the end of my love hunt? NOPE! But I do know, life is to short to not be happy.
At the end of the day, you know what makes you happy. Most of us won't let go of those who are hurting us because we feel some sort of guilt or obligation to stick around. When a situation isn't working baby, you have to let it go. Like Elsa, let that shit go, you'll be surprised by the blessing God will send your way when you just let go.
Thursday, December 15, 2016
Craig Sager lost his battle with cancer today, he was 65 years-old. To me he was serious broadcasting goals. Not only was he himself in every interview and report, but he wasn't scared to showcase it with his crazy ties and suits. I looked forward to when he was at a game not only to see what he was going to wear, but how he interacts with the athletes. It really makes me sad that he passed away, there will NEVER be another Craig Sager. R.I.P Craig Sager my heart goes out his family, friends and fans.
Monday, December 12, 2016
Someone asked me this question: Why are you so open with your writing?
Dear someone who wants to remain anonymous,
I'm an open book. When it comes to my writing I'm even more raw because I refuse to be ashamed of who I am, what I am, what created me, or what life events I've been through that got me where I'm at today.
I'm so raw with my writing because I never know who I'm going to touch. Whose life I'm going to change just by opening up about my battles with depression, previous struggles with self-hate, abuse, denial, drama, trauma and the list goes on. I understand that I'm not the only one to have ever gone through what I've been through. By writing it out, I not only open a door for someone whose been there to reach out and give me advice. I also open a door to someone who is going through it and might feel as if they're the loneliest person in the universe. I write so that they don't feel like no one cares and no one understands.
I'm so raw in my writing because it's a gift that God gave me. He also helped me through all my hardships and I have to share that I made it, because I believed and he took care of me. I have to honor the one who allows me to continue my journey. Another reason why I'm raw with my writing is because some people, oddly enough find solace in my blogs. Just knowing that I can help someone I've never met just by writing, that's what It's all about.
My blogs reach over eight countries. According to my analytics and views, I reach across the US, Russia, Ukraine, Germany, France, United Kingdom, Canada, India, Netherlands and Indonesia to name a few. That is why I added the translation icon on my blog, I want everyone who types in a keyword in Google who might need help, to hopefully get relief after reading my journey.
I write because my readers are my extended family, and like family we take care of one another. I write because you matter, and I want you to know that. Whether you read a blog, a prayer that I write, personally message me "thank yous" etc. I read it all, I love it all and I accept the compliments, comments and concerns. I even accept the hatred and bullying. I write because no matter the backlash it's worth the release.
Tuesday, December 6, 2016
Au revoir, Paris! Here’s to another AMAZING #VSFashionShow. Watch all this on the runway Dec. 5, 10/9c on @cbstv!A photo posted by Victoria's Secret (@victoriassecret) on
Last night the Victoria Secret Fashion Show aired on CBS! I've been in love with this fashion show since I was little and saw Adrianna Lima owning the crowd and working the run way. I guess it was then, that she became my favorite Angel. Last night was full of wins to me , not just with the fashion and the music but with the women they had strutting their stuff.
Man I love HER!
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1. The show showcased natural hair and it made me appreciate Victoria Secret a little more. Growing up watching television and seeing models on the covers of magazines I never saw someone like me. The hair, skin tone, attitude, happiness none of that was present. So to know that there are young girls out there who watched the show and saw someone like them, makes me extremely happy.
I woke up this morning feeling over the moon!!! I am so happy to have shared viewing this epic event with my family last night! To have my mom in the audience of the VS show in Paris was the most rewarding feeling ever! They have seen the ups and downs of my career since the very beginning. They have watched me start and stop modeling almost a million times! This was for you guys!! Perseverance and a positive mindset is everything! Don't let setbacks keep you from getting what you want. Remember that people don't know your worth until you show them what it is. "Faith is giving the divine the chance to act." - Sri Sri Ravi Shankar. 💕💕A special thank you to some of the people who helped make this happen. Your support means the world!! @majormodelsny @nadiawomen @10magazine @ed_razek @johndavidpfeiffer @victoriassecretA photo posted by Jourdana Phillips (@jourdanaelizabeth) on
AFTER THE FIRST SHOW, I couldn't hold back tears!! Forever grateful❤️🙏🏾 Thank you everyone 🙈💕💕 @ed_razek @victoriassecret @johndavidpfeiffer @10magazineA photo posted by Herieth Paul🇹🇿 (@heriethpaul) on
2. Diversity! I watch this fashion show every year and I even watch the replay, I haven't seen so many different races in this show in a long time. I loved seeing this because one day, there will be full figured models in this show!
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3. A pregnant model! That's right one of the angels, Irina Shayk was in her second trimester last night! Victoria Secret could have easily gotten rid of her, but NOPE they adjusted and still let her work that runway!
4. I thought it was cuet when exes Bella Hadid and musical guest The Weekend shared the runway. She walked passed him and touched his stomach, they shared a smile and he watch her walk. This was Bella's first Victoria Secret Fashion Show along side sister Gigi Hadid.
5. Jasmine Tookes wore the $3 million bra!
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6. The music...you can't have fashion without the music! For some reason I can't get my hands on the rest of the videos of Gaga, The Weekend and Bruno Mars, but when I do I'll post them!
Meet the Angels, watch all the perfromances and check out some of the hot items from the show CLICK HERE