Wednesday, April 30, 2014

Clippers and Our Reality

We read the stories, see the memes created and that are floating all over our social networking sites. We take light to Donald Sterling  and his situation because the new  NBA commissioner made a decision that ultimately made one of the biggest statements of 2014. BANNED for LIFE! Those words, in bold big ink, will make anyone cringe a little bit.

Let's take a look further into this situation. Here is why Sterling and the Clippers is a reality and no big deal to most people today. You have your young beautiful woman or the "side piece" to a rich wealthy older Caucasian man. He just so happens to be rich and the supposed "sugar daddy" to his "assistant". Not only do we have them sleeping together, she's scorned because they "broke up" and she claimed to "get him back". 

Now we hear that she spliced these private discussions  together to get others to see him in this light.  My question is, how many times has she heard him speak this way? How many times was she recording him while she was straddling him? Why now?   Reports of Donald Sterling first came about YEARS ago with his views on the African American community. He owns housing units that make it impossible for minorities to rent. In 2003 Sterling  had to pay off over $3 million to his tenants in the LA area for his racially biased abusive behavior claiming he wouldn't rent to Mexicans because of how they "smelled". Where was this story before now?

He cheats on his wife, talks bad about others who look different than him, and he sees his organization as a bunch of animals who do nothing but put money in his pocket. These words I'm sure he's said countless times before.  Now we have the pretty ex girlfriend who spilled the beans because her ties to Sterling were cut short. Classic case of a woman scorned.

It's 2014, not like we've been oblivious to the fact that old racist people still exist.  Or to the idea that not everyone likes those they work with or work for. I'm sure we've all had co workers or bosses to whom we've said negative things about.  In no means am I defending Sterling, his words or actions. In no means am I feeling sorry for the side piece or Sterling for being BANNED. What I do feel sorry for is for the people who think of this as "brand new" and are surprised.

That just shows that there's still a little bit of obliviousness when it comes to people. It shows that people aren't really aware of the things that are STILL going  race wise. It shows me that some people honestly think we are equal and not still divided.  The new commissioner had a tough decision to make, talk about being welcomed into your new position right?  

I agree with the commentators when they said the new commissioner made history. This stands as a front and shows that we have to come together, be better and educated when it comes to the world around us. This woke up the America that might have been asleep and ignorant to the years of history they tried to wash away.  Sterling is classic high school history text book material. Yes folks, this type of thinking still exists.  It's unfortunate that we had to have this happen for people to be applaud.

Clippers is our reality, because it's just that reality. Only difference is that it's high profiled compared to what goes on in the tri-city areas. There are worse and will continue to be worse until someone reaches those areas that are in need and help them. Why can't we help those cities and come together like we did for the Clippers? One day at a time I guess, question is, when will that time come?

Friday, April 25, 2014


until I realized that my life is mine and what I make of it, is exactly what I will get out of it

looking to others for that satisfaction instead of looking at ... me

putting all my thoughts on paper, and erasing the truth to rewrite a fictitious nature

Wide awake
Staring at the ceiling
Thoughts racing
until I drown myself with my own thoughts and excluding God, worse thing I've ever done

Name game
finger blame
to anyone around me because it's their fault not mine.....

Frowned face
dry phone
no noise
realize now I'm all I have, can't hide or run from what I see or who I've become

Heart beating
blood rushing
sweat dripping
I can hear all these things, that's how quiet I've become

Tired of:
and not taking action

Tired of
words being said
no action being taken
lame excuses
from those I surrounded myself with

Now I'm thinking, escaping into my writing, pointing the blame to my heart beats that caused me to wait and dream on the words, actions and excuses of others. Swimming in my words  in the lake that God has made for me. Not drowning because he helped me, now I'm able to just be....

and most importantly

By: Ebony Williams :)

Monday, April 21, 2014

MESSAGE: Babe Came With A Price

"Write it out, I gave you the gift of writing for you to express and be free. Honor me with your talent even if you don't want to share light on this one thing. It will and can help someone else" - God...... . <3

As I was talking to one of my girlfriends over the weekend I was listening to her vent about her "mister". She went on to say that every time he needs her she's there, even when she's not needed. One thing that ticks her off is whenever she reads a text that says "babe" he will soon ask for something.  I smiled at her and had to reassure her I wasn't being rude. I was smiling because we have a common ground on this topic. Unlike me, my friend and her mister have a real relationship.

When I receive babe messages, I cringe a little because I know sooner or later a favor will be asked; whether it be pics, conversation on his time,  money and so on. Another thing that made me smile was that her mister needed money and that was a frequent favor he would ask. In time we get tired of being nice, and helping other people. I get tired of extending my hand to those who take and don't have to courtesy to ask how I'm doing or even say thank you. Let me clarify one thing though, I don't give and expect something in return ACCEPT a thank you, simple enough right?  Example, I had a concussion, my family was going through something, I was going through something, leaving voice mails pleading for a call back, oh the list goes on and my "mister" was MIA. But sure enough when he needed something a text would soon come though.

My friend went on to say that her mister loves to say how down he is for "them" and how much he "does". I use quotations because he's very much absent and that's been shown through out the relationship. I smiled at her again and told her, my mister had the nerve to say I was lying when I said he's not there. Brings me to my next point. People don't like to hear what they don't do for you; especially when they know they take whatever they can from you. It's kind of a cover up for how they honestly are in life. They sugar code themselves. My issue is that some people are honestly comfortable with THINKING they are doing great for you, and not ACCEPTING the reality that, no they really aren't doing a damn thing.

Then she asked me "what do I do?" and I replied "what ever you want". I know my friend was looking for advice and some type of guidance with her man situation. But since I'm single, it's not my place to tell another woman who is in a relationship what to do with that relationship let alone how to feel about it. Seeing her face I then said  "pray on it, be happy, and listen to what God says". She then asked me "what did you do?" I smiled at her and said " I got tired of being "convenient" so I let go, but the difference is I don't have real ties to mine like you do. Yes we have strong emotions but I've learned from being single that I have to put myself first at times. Sticking my ground on the level of respect I will receive is one thing I wont ever compromise"

 I know what's fair and I've been shown that, what I wont do is be complacent with a situation that has possible promise but no action. When I get rid of the distractions, when I'm alone in my prayers, I can hear what he has for me. When I let go, I've heard everything I've been blocking myself from hearing, all because I didn't want to let go. My babe came with a price and I paid it, it came with me being selfish in my WANTS and not submissive to Gods WANTS. Leaving my wants behind, I know what God has ahead of me.

Best decision I've made in years.

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Katy Perry- Birthday

No Means No

So when someone says DON'T ask me something pertaining to a beef with someone else, it's best to listen. Especially if you are on LIVE television! August Alsina checks 106 and Park's host Keisha Chante for asking about his beef with Trey Songz