I've come to the realization through many things, people watching, and personal experiences that rushing is a huge mistake! You might say "duh" or "no shit" but in reality we do this many times some of us do it every day.
Why rush something you want to last awhile? Why eat your food scortching hot when it tastes better cooled down? Why rush on a test when you can take your time and get an A? Why rush driving to work when you can get into an accident? And of course why rush into finding love?
I'm the type of person who knows what I want and will stop at nothing until I get it. Problem is I have an issue when knowing when to apply that go getter attitude verses when I need to chill out. If I'm interested in someone (which is rare) I would focus on them and slowly shift where my focus should stay at to where they are. I'm glad to say I caught myself and I've turned my boat to the right course. So I will admit, I tend to rush and want what I know I want instead of coolin out.
I was talking to my girl Ty when I realized I know what I need to do. I know what I have to do its right in my brain but yet I chose to ignore it for my bodily desires. Why am I rushing something when I want it to last? Why am I rushing something when I'm not done getting my "playtime" out the way? Why am I rushing something when my focus needs to be on my craft so I can succeed? And why am I trippin over nothing? After talking with her, I realized I need to enjoy what I'm experiencing. I need to enjoy what my life is offering and the places I'm about to go. I need to enjoy myself and keep getting to know me before I can share it and expect someone to love it.
Yes I'm emotional and crazy about those chick flicks and romantic movies. Yes I love the thought of walking on a beach at sunset and talking all night. Yes I desire waking up next to someone who wants me just as much as I want them. And yes I know that when rushing you can never know someone as deeply as you want to.
I have my whole life to find all that and be smitten and totally swept off my feet. What I don't have is time to waste with my job and my craft. Those things need to be handled in a certain time period aka "you're moment" and this is my moment.
So don't burn your tongue eating hot food. Don't fail a test when you need to study and get an A instead. And most importantly don't rush those feelings instead enjoy this phase and let it take its course and if it doesn't work out, then know it was never meant to be anyway ;). For my control freaks out there it's a lesson you will learn and understand with experience.